With the rapid increase of changes in
the way we live, think, or approach problems at hand due to the remarkably fast
evolution of technology, more-than-ever progressive ideas and various resources
available in abundant, there has certainly been a huge paradigm shift in many
aspects of our life, including parenting: Some have exerted pretty positive
influence on kids, while few negative like parents’ failure to refrain their
kids from the excessive use of technology since the early childhood. Let us
focus specifically on what a majority of Indian parents has been doing wrong,
some of which may also be relevant across the globe, for ages; These approaches
towards their kids have been undeterred, with no alteration, as raw as intact
as possible, and firmly stood every test of time, for the worse.
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Instill Fear
Even though it may appear shocking and
a blunt lie as you run through the title, this is being done by most Indian
parents, of course, unknowingly. Parents use various tricks to have their kids
stop crying, convince them to have food or milk to ensure a nutritious diet, and refrain
them from going out to safeguard them. One of the methods, which, I am afraid,
most-used and considered most-working, is to scare them by telling these
unaware, not-exposed-to-worldly-knowledge and innocent souls, on not acting as
per their desire, a lion, cat or ghost would come and eat them up. This gives
birth to an unknown fear in them: The fear of invisible entity, or elements
which either have no capability to terror human being or have nothing to do
with human life. When the stories of valiant acts of figures such as Rani
Laxmibai and Maharana Pratap must be told to inculcate brevity in kids, horror
stories or frightening incidents are told just to get acts like having them
sleep done, which, in turn, develops a sense of insecurities in them in the
early age. Many carry it with them throughout their life. This absurd act has
become so normal that when you search on Google the phrase: Horror stories to
tell children, you will be flooded with blogs and articles. Childhood plays an
integral part in how one turns out on growing up. What learnt in childhood may
remain with one throughout life; many adults actually never come out of this
fear, which was inculcated unintentionally, and it reflects in their
personalities.
Ignore building Character
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Most of us literally feel that
children don’t understand anything, and they will learn everything on being
grown-up, while we seem to overlook how fast a child learns to speak a
language, recognize their parents. On being introduced to grandparents a few
times, the child memorizes and addresses them correctly. However, it is said as
parents act as their children learn, it is never put to practice in teaching
them. A father hardly hesitates to instruct his 5-year-aged child to tell the
person he is acquainted with that he is not at home; and then, these parents
advise kids to speak the truth. A spouse never minds fighting each other before
kids, and expect children not to indulge in fights. Leaving it on schools and
the process of growing up, not many parents go out of their way to ensure their
children learn proper etiquettes and manners, likely causing them to catch bad
habits and ill-manners. A great character cannot be built out of thin air; it
must first be practiced by parents and demands quality and timely devotion to
kids.
Suppress
Curiosity
On witnessing the unfolding of a
seemingly simple event to adults, a child is likely to raise questions to his
parents due to their fresh exposure to the World. These questions are dismissed
often by parents followed by short admonishment, which prompts a rethink in the
child next time over whether to ask something. Things are taught in hard,
stereotyped manner -which hardly encourages questions on why should a
particular thing be done using a specific method, and why not with another?
Sometimes, just to bring an end to a string of questions thrown by the child,
either he is told to keep his mouth shut or offered a wrong answer suitable to
kill the thread. Most parents depend entirely on schools or tuitions to educate
their kids, while they hardly make them sit to teach and analyze them.
Don’t find Child’s Interest
Most Indian parents plan the future of
their child, in many cases even before it is born. Many studies across the world have revealed that by observing children’s activities keenly, their area
of interest can be found out providing children are made to indulge in a
diverse set of activities. But, by and large, children are handed over toys, a mobile,
made to watch cartoons on TV or play with other kids as part of their daily
routine. No substantial change takes place in the routine until they turn 5 or
6 -when they usually join schools. And then parents’ focus shifts to making
them study hard to catch up with the ever-growing competition. In the course of
time, now-a-grown-up discovers, if ever, what attracts their interest and mind
only to realize not much could be done to proceed further.
The mentality of being in the safe
haven of status quo must be discarded to embrace the outcomes associated with
the adoption of fresh approaches towards nourishing kids, which, in turn, will
certainly run great enthusiasm in children and transmit broad outlook about
life. How our posterity will turn out entirely depends on how we choose them
to.
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