4 Things Most Indian Parents do Wrong

With the rapid increase of changes in the way we live, think, or approach problems at hand due to the remarkably fast evolution of technology, more-than-ever progressive ideas and various resources available in abundant, there has certainly been a huge paradigm shift in many aspects of our life, including parenting: Some have exerted pretty positive influence on kids, while few negative like parents’ failure to refrain their kids from the excessive use of technology since the early childhood. Let us focus specifically on what a majority of Indian parents has been doing wrong, some of which may also be relevant across the globe, for ages; These approaches towards their kids have been undeterred, with no alteration, as raw as intact as possible, and firmly stood every test of time, for the worse.  

 

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Instill Fear

Even though it may appear shocking and a blunt lie as you run through the title, this is being done by most Indian parents, of course, unknowingly. Parents use various tricks to have their kids stop crying, convince them to have food or milk to ensure a nutritious diet, and refrain them from going out to safeguard them. One of the methods, which, I am afraid, most-used and considered most-working, is to scare them by telling these unaware, not-exposed-to-worldly-knowledge and innocent souls, on not acting as per their desire, a lion, cat or ghost would come and eat them up. This gives birth to an unknown fear in them: The fear of invisible entity, or elements which either have no capability to terror human being or have nothing to do with human life. When the stories of valiant acts of figures such as Rani Laxmibai and Maharana Pratap must be told to inculcate brevity in kids, horror stories or frightening incidents are told just to get acts like having them sleep done, which, in turn, develops a sense of insecurities in them in the early age. Many carry it with them throughout their life. This absurd act has become so normal that when you search on Google the phrase: Horror stories to tell children, you will be flooded with blogs and articles. Childhood plays an integral part in how one turns out on growing up. What learnt in childhood may remain with one throughout life; many adults actually never come out of this fear, which was inculcated unintentionally, and it reflects in their personalities.

Ignore building Character  

      

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Most of us literally feel that children don’t understand anything, and they will learn everything on being grown-up, while we seem to overlook how fast a child learns to speak a language, recognize their parents. On being introduced to grandparents a few times, the child memorizes and addresses them correctly. However, it is said as parents act as their children learn, it is never put to practice in teaching them. A father hardly hesitates to instruct his 5-year-aged child to tell the person he is acquainted with that he is not at home; and then, these parents advise kids to speak the truth. A spouse never minds fighting each other before kids, and expect children not to indulge in fights. Leaving it on schools and the process of growing up, not many parents go out of their way to ensure their children learn proper etiquettes and manners, likely causing them to catch bad habits and ill-manners. A great character cannot be built out of thin air; it must first be practiced by parents and demands quality and timely devotion to kids.

Suppress Curiosity   

On witnessing the unfolding of a seemingly simple event to adults, a child is likely to raise questions to his parents due to their fresh exposure to the World. These questions are dismissed often by parents followed by short admonishment, which prompts a rethink in the child next time over whether to ask something. Things are taught in hard, stereotyped manner -which hardly encourages questions on why should a particular thing be done using a specific method, and why not with another? Sometimes, just to bring an end to a string of questions thrown by the child, either he is told to keep his mouth shut or offered a wrong answer suitable to kill the thread. Most parents depend entirely on schools or tuitions to educate their kids, while they hardly make them sit to teach and analyze them.

Don’t find Child’s Interest

Most Indian parents plan the future of their child, in many cases even before it is born. Many studies across the world have revealed that by observing children’s activities keenly, their area of interest can be found out providing children are made to indulge in a diverse set of activities. But, by and large, children are handed over toys, a mobile, made to watch cartoons on TV or play with other kids as part of their daily routine. No substantial change takes place in the routine until they turn 5 or 6 -when they usually join schools. And then parents’ focus shifts to making them study hard to catch up with the ever-growing competition. In the course of time, now-a-grown-up discovers, if ever, what attracts their interest and mind only to realize not much could be done to proceed further.

The mentality of being in the safe haven of status quo must be discarded to embrace the outcomes associated with the adoption of fresh approaches towards nourishing kids, which, in turn, will certainly run great enthusiasm in children and transmit broad outlook about life. How our posterity will turn out entirely depends on how we choose them to.